Where's Your WOW?

Years ago I read a book titled, "Where's Your WOW?: 16 Ways to Make Your Competitors Wish They Were You!"   The book speaks of  each individual's unique WOW factor--that special element only you can deliver that will delight your customers. While this is predominately a business book it really does apply to our whole life.


Sometimes when we are feeling down or life seems to have lost its pizazz, recovery can be simply a matter of finding or remembering our WOW!  After all things that make us say WoW generally give us a feeling of being alive . I mean what's life without some WoW's!


For me one of my WOW's is black eyeliner! Yup, that right black eyeliner. I love it and it always makes me feel special. Not only do I get the payoff of loving the way my eyes look but I also enjoy the creative experience of applying feature enhancing make-up. I get to feel like an artist every morning.

I recently asked one of my best friends What her WOW was and she immediately responded "My Victoria's Secret Bra" (which is another one of mine too :) When I asked my sister the same question she responded "My sense of Humor." How great is that?! The point is we all have things that make feel good, special and alive. For you it might be your garden, your passion for learning or perhaps even your gold jewelry. WOW's come in many different forms but they all make us feel alive.

While I haven't figured out a magic formula for finding your WOW, I have been inspired by Howard Thurman's quote, "Don’t ask what the world needs. Ask what makes you come alive, and go do it. Because what the world needs is people who have come alive"

So....What's your WOW?

Just try not to feel beautiful bathing in God’s Grace

I like to take as many mundane everyday tasks such as walking or taking a shower and turn them into “semi sacred rituals”. Let’s take bathing for example. Water is the universal solvent and has been referred to and used as a purification method in many spiritual traditions. From holy water to the sacrament of baptism water has definite symbolic associations. For me, magic is achieved when I combine water, intention, and stimulation of my senses.



Bathing is the perfect time to “wash away” negativity and use the power of you mind to not only cleanse your body but also generate positive feelings. I like to use an amazing body wash called Pure Grace by Philosophy which smells amazing and lathers up great, the name isn’t bad either! I think a good smelling body wash is important because it stimulates our sense of smell which affects our brain chemistry and changes our mood in powerful ways. Next, I lather up full body and tap into the powerful force of my imagination. This is equally important considering that our subconscious mind is affected by our imagination and we actually physically respond to the images that we create. I visualize all negativity washing of my body with the soap acting as a negativity magnet, so to speak. As the water flows over me and the soap goes down the drain, I can’t help but feel renewed and clean both physically and mentally. Most days (dependent on time) I take it a step further and visualize God’s grace surrounding me and actually permeating every cell in my body. To do this I lather up a second time after I have already cleansed myself using the above method and go into “Grace” mode. I really love this second lather because it allows me to bring spirituality into the experience and reminds me that I am a part of something much bigger.

Why not personalize and try this method? You could visualize love surrounding you and go into “Love mode” or maybe it’s “Beauty Mode” you’re e after.  For "Brownie Points" try surround yourself with white protective light once you've rinsed off. As you are visualizing this beautiful white light surrounding your body hold the intention that you are protected and that all forms of negativity simply bounce off of you. This will not only protect you energetically but it will also send a safe protective signal to your mind making you feel great.  As you can see you can play with these techniques quite a bit and personalize them.  The point is you really have nothing to lose and so much to gain! Have fun :)

A Beautiful Mind

My father recently passed away. It was unexpected and like any other family that suffers such a devastating loss, we are grieving beyond words can say.


My nature is and has always been to strive to see, look and feel beautiful in all situations. Sometimes I fall short. This was one of those times. The day after my father died, I sat down determined to write a posting about seeing the beauty in death. I failed. Not that there isn’t beauty in death—it’s just that I wasn’t and I’m not ready to gather my thoughts and put them out there to the world yet. I’m also still working through all of the normal emotions that come with the death of a parent.

Believe it or not—I found myself feeling guilty that I could not muster up a blog entry about beauty and death. I found myself thinking thoughts like—“What’s wrong with you—you can’t even write a blog entry?” and “Wow what a disappointment you’ve turned out to be” and perhaps the cruelest one of all “What would Daddy think of you now”

Needless to say I certainly wasn’t feeling compassion towards myself. That’s the funny thing about what I call Mind Chatter (that relentless voice in your mind). It’s always going on—and most of the time it’s not very compassionate or realistic. Take some time out today to stop and listen to that chatter. I think you will be amazed at how critical and sometimes downright mean that chatter can be.

This mind chatter can sabotage more than we know. The Funny thing about this voice is that it’s not even our own! Let me explain. As babies and small children—we think we are great! We scribble on walls and marvel at our masterpieces, we make funny noises and laugh at our comical abilities, we get into our moms make-up scribble all over faces with red lipstick and blue eye shadow and think “Aren’t I beautiful!” we steal a cookie from our brother and delight in the sweetness without feeling an ounce of guilt. I bet if we listened into the mind chatter of a 2 year old pretending to be Buzz Light Year we would hear thoughts such as “To infinite and Beyond!” The point is a 2 year old doesn’t think “Who am I to pretend to be a super hero?” He or she thinks “Who am I NOT to be a Super Hero!”

So why do we struggle so much with this mind chatter and how is it possible to go from Hero to Zero? While the answer is multi-faceted and can get complex—I will offer what I believe to be the most prevalent way. We unconsciously absorb others limiting beliefs and then use our imagination to intensify them. Our subconscious mind is ALWAYS listening, absorbing and trying to protect us. This part of our mind controls all our involuntary responses such as breathing, respiration and also things like our auto pilot responses when doing things such as driving, riding a bike or even typing. In contrast to our conscious mind—we are not aware of this behind the scene power house even though it is controlling 95% of our decisions. We think we are in control with our conscious mind and why shouldn’t we? If I were to ask you what your dreams, goals or even what you want to wear today—your conscious mind would answer. Yet when you try to achieve the very things you said—your subconscious mind would be calling the shots based on previous programs. That explains the duality that can sometimes occur in our words and actions. We may consciously really want to stay on our diet or write that thesis but our subconscious mind has a different idea. As a result of this and in combination with our imagination we exaggerate our perceived shortcomings.

The majority of these negative programs are “downloaded before the age of 7 (when our brain waves are in a constant state of THETA) but we continue to download beliefs our whole life. That’s why it’s so important to pay attention to the words we use, be compassionate with ourselves when we fall short of our expectations and to look for ways to change our subconscious negative beliefs. A few of my favorite ways are; Hypnosis, Subliminal Tapes, EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique) and NLP (Nuero Linguistic Programming).

If you ask me what’s the most important part of looking, feeling and experiencing beauty in your life, I would have to say or rather scream---YOUR MENTAL ATMOSPHERE. It’s really hard to experience beauty when you’re feeling despair and sadness because you are already experiencing a negative state of being. Similarly, when your thinking sad, anxiety ridden and self defeating thoughts it’s extremely hard to physically feel good. It’s just not practical considering the interconnectedness of your mind and body. Your body actually takes on the physiology of your state of mind and vice versa. For example when you’re feeling depressed , angry and so on--your facial muscles reflect that (your facial muscles are actually uniquely connected to the emotional part of your brain) your posture becomes slumped, your immune system is compromised, and of course the stress response is set off. As far as looking beautiful--in a previous blog I wrote of the skin and stress. Your skin is your body’s largest organ and immediately shows your physical and mental state. That’s why it is really easy to see the changes in someone when they are under stress or sick, hence the expression, “Written all over their face”.

While I certainly recommend changing your subconscious beliefs—I also know there is great value in simple awareness and encourage you be more compassionate with yourself. Please take a moment to listen to your mind chatter. Unless it is saying that you are the Most Beautiful and Amazing person-- know that it is wrong and for now simply tell it so!

See Through The Eyes of Beauty

If you want to feel more beautiful yourself, notice the beauty in others!


Just for a minute think about what you consider beautiful. Do you think of a specific person? Perhaps a Hollywood star? Maybe your cousin? What does beauty look like to you?

You’re probably not surprised to hear the fact that many people have strict, critical, and unrealistic standards when it comes to defining beauty. This causes us to lose an opportunity to appreciate our fellow human being and also keeps us in a state of self judgment.

If you would like to expand your idea of beauty, feel more appreciation for yourself and LAY THE GROUND WORK FOR YOUR OWN TRANSFORMATION the below exercise will help greatly.

Your assignment is to Notice the Beauty in everyone that you come in contact with. This may seem like a hard task at first if you are not accustomed to thinking in this way but once you expand your heart and make a choice to see through the eyes of beauty it becomes easy. As much as you can-- notice what is beautiful about the people you come in contact with. It could be the sparkle in their eyes, their finely manicured nails, the graceful way someone moves their body or the beauty of their strong conviction. The point is ---Be on the lookout for beauty!

The good news is there are plenty of places and opportunities to practice this skill. Your local supermarket is a great place to start or for that matter any place where there are people.

Please be patient with yourself when first beginning and remember this is a change in perception and habit which is generally uncomfortable at first.

Now go out and notice some beautiful people and remember---The more we are able to recognize beauty in others---the more we are able to recognize beauty in ourselves.

Positively Beautiful!

It’s really difficult to feel, look and experience beauty when you are overwhelmed with negative energy. Amongst other things ,negative energy equals stress. The stress response turns on a whole cascade of bio-chemical reactions in your body. These reactions directly influence the way we look, feel and experience life. From the inflammation response to the excessive release of the hormone cortisol our body and energy level suffer. Internally we feel the effects of stress and externally the world sees these effects. For example, our skin shows stress quickly and can become lack luster, dull, sallow, inflamed and so on.


Remember we are all made of energy and we absorb energy. What type of energy have you been absorbing lately? What skills do you have for shielding yourself from the bombardment of negativity in your daily life? Are you surrounding yourself with positive energy and making high energy choices? Please watch the below video from Dr Judith Orloff for some tips on how to tap positive energy and shield yourself from negative energy

Tap the energy of food, silence, and positive people